Is it my imagination with phopia?

i moved to a small new england town..its cliquey..almost everyone is married with children and very leary of strangers..i,m middle aged..unmarried and i heard one neighbor say to the child..'don't talk to the man'..ive learned that if people can't find out things about you..they will fabricate..i was walking with a Messenger bag on my shoulder as i was heading to the capital..two men blew kisses and said '******'. i hate it..i'm trapped. a man not married in these parts is considered abnormal..i know people talk about me...i moved here to help my mother with dementia...another stigma..middle aged son living with mother.i'm suppose to drive a pickup....wear a ratty baseball cap almost 24/7..a stinky old tee is a plus..i always look neat and groomed and people find this peculiar..